~Breakdown??? Not Even~

If you find yourself wanting to close down because you "followed your Heart" in the past and it didn't work out, remember this: each relationship in your life has been brought to you to teach you and to learn.

 

If you are seeking Love, you will manifest relationships that show you your internal blocks to love. Celebrate past hurts because now you have the lessons in your hands and can learn from them.

 

To shut down is to miss the point. The goal is to remain open to love and become more intelligent about your choices.

 

Great love is knocking, it's your choice to open up.

You can't please everybody by Rick Warren

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18 (NIV)

 

"Even God can't please everybody. Only a fool would try to do what even God can't do."

Have you realized that there are some people you can't please?  No matter what you do or what you try or how nice you are to them. You just can't please everybody.

 

But the Bible tells says you don't need to please everybody. "It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you." (Proverbs 29:25 LB) It's an emotional trap when you start worrying about what other people think. We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't even like -- all because we think we must be liked by everyone in order to be happy. That's foolish!

 

Jesus said, "I only seek to please Him who sent me."  (John 5:30 LB) Even Jesus didn't try to please everybody. One person wants it to rain; another doesn't want it to rain. I was one in Texas talking to oil people.  They want oil prices to go up; the rest of us are hoping they'll go down.  Even God can't please everybody.  Only a fool would try to do what even God can't do. 

 

In Luke 6:26 Jesus said, "Woe to you when all men speak well of you." (NIV) That's probably because the only time everybody's going to speak well of you is at your funeral!

 

I meet Christians all the time who must live with someone who makes life crazy. Every day they face someone who is an EGR (extra grace required).  They say, "I try and try to make peace with this person, but I fail and I feel so guilty."  The fact is, it may not be your fault.  It may be the person you're trying to make peace with is just flat out difficult. 

 

Give that person to God and focus on pleasing Him.

~CON TROLL~

Good Day Readers!

 

This Lovely Morning, Me & My Hair Struck a Deal… You do your thing and I’ll do my thing!

 

Recall, I mentioned a month or so ago that I am transitioning [growing out my natural hair meaning no more relaxers for me].  I must admit, this is no walk in the park.  Lately, I’ve been going through an identity crisis… Feeling anxious, insecure and uncertain about myself because I’ve been trying to control my hair to conform to social norms [straight, not so kinky hair] when it doesn’t want to be conformed!!!  It has been almost 5 months since I put a relaxer so there are imperfect kinks and curls everywhere… some places more kinky, frizzy, curly, and/or straight than others.  It has been stressing me out that my hair has not and will not conform, therefore, I have been seriously considering turning back and putting a relaxer…. Until I leaned upon a dear line sister of mine [Keedy] for support, as I always do!  She should have a label on her that says, “Satisfaction Guarantee” because I am always inspired following my conversations, well alright, moreso COMPLAINTS to her regarding hair!

 

She often reminds me that “It’s Just Hair!”  Ha, “Easier said than done!” is always my riposte… until today! I get it… IT IS just hair!  I am NOT my hair and actually, I WOULD much prefer my imperfect kinky, frizzy, curly tresses!!!  I am growing through this hair experience… I am learning to be and let be! 

 

In my humble opinion, There is a part of us all that wants to control… Being in control is powerful, safe and comforting...  Letting go of control is also powerful, safe and comforting!  The difference is the Ego!  Being in control is Great for the Ego… Letting go of Control is Great for the mind, body and soul!  I’ll take mind, body and soul for $300 please!

 

To make things more interesting, I’ve personified this little thing we call control… 

 

There is a tribe of TROLLS called CON from the land of EGOrium!   In the land of EGOrium, the CON TROLL tribe consists of only Giant and Dwarf sized trolls!  These trolls are half beast and half human.  They are mean, ugly cons and have exaggerated facial features!  Beware -- These monsters feed off of sugar, doubt, fast foods, arrogance, salt and anxiety! You can destroy your troll once you identify it (it’s size, name, food(s) of choice and facial features).  Generally, trolls have an aversion to questioning and light!  I am still working on the destruction of my CON TROLL!  Her name is Betsy, she’s a dwarf troll and she absolutely loves to pig out on my hesitation, ice cream, communication skills and insecurities! 

 

 

"Many people spend the majority of their lives attempting to control circumstances because they believe that in the controlling of the circumstance, they will feel better. But no matter how much control they gain over the actions of others, it is never enough - because there is always another uncontrollable circumstance. 
 
You have no creative power within the lives of others, for they are offering their own vibrations, which equal their own point of attraction, just as you are offering your own vibrations, which equal your own point of attraction."
 
- Esther Hicks, Page 135 from her awesome book "Ask and it is Given".

 

Words From The Brilliant Dr. Troy Beyer...

If he KNOWS you KNOW he’s Cheating, it is no longer cheating… Cheating is when one is being dishonest. If he knows you know then there is NO dishonesty… What there is IS YOU settling for less than a partner devoted whole-heartedly to you and at this point it all becomes your problem and not his. Why is it now your problem?  Because you have all the information you need to know your partner is not 100% committed to you. If you are fine with that then you can create a future that works for that. If you are not fine with that and I do mean REALLY fine with that then if you stay in that relationship you will grow to know yourself as a 100% sell out and not only won't you respect yourself, your partner won't respect you and most likely any children you have (especially girls) will also not respect you until you are a 100% stand for what you want, what you are willing to give and thereby able to reclaim your self worth

 

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TODAY'S WORD from Joel and Victoria

Do you realize you have treasure on the inside of you? You could say that your pearls are what God has given you to be a blessing to the world around you—your gifts, talents and abilities. When you get around true friends, people who really believe in you, they won't be jealous of your gifts. They won't constantly question who you are. They won't try to talk you out of your dreams. It will be just the opposite. They'll help you polish your pearls, develop your pearls, enhance your pearls, and grow your pearls. In other words, they'll give you ideas. They'll connect you with people they know. They'll help push you further along. If you stay around people who don't value your gifts nor appreciate what you have to offer, that's casting your pearls among swine.

Your inner circle, those who are closest to you, should be people who celebrate who you are; people who are happy when you succeed. They should be people who believe the very best in you. Remember, it's not the quantity of friends that's important, it's the quality of friends. Choose your friends wisely so you can be all that God has called you to be.

Housewarming Weekend Celebration!

Your Ideas Are Greatly Appreciated…

 

I am looking forward to having a housewarming celebration soon.  As an expression of my appreciation for my home, family and friends; also, welcoming family and friends to my new home… I am , along with a few fabulous line sisters, planning a Housewarming Weekend Celebration! 

 

The dates are tentative but My Celebration will begin Saturday Evening and Conclude Sunday Evening!  I’ve never attended such an event!  I am extremely excited to plan & execute as I am sure it will be a success! 

 

The following is a sneak peek of plans for my weekend celebration…

 

Saturday night Housewarming Cocktail Party – (adults only) 8:30 p.m. - until

 

This evening welcome guests to view my home, socialize, network, eat, have a few drinks, dance and/or relax & overall… look great, feel great, celebrate with me & have a great time!  Guests are expected to wear cocktail attire =] (elegant and simple – not formal)

 

Hors D’Oeuvres will be served J

Desert - Cake designed as a house!!! (how cute)

 

 

Sunday Housewarming Brunch (Breakfast 10-1; Lunch 2:30-5:30)

 

This afternoon is dedicated to guests of all ages!  Guests are welcome to view the house, enjoy food, games, conversation and make memories!

 

Tentative Breakfast Menu:

Morning Mimosas ~ Tainted lemonade ~ French toast ~ Beignets ~ Danish muffins/ banana nut/ blueberry ~ Cinnamon rolls ~ Donuts ~ Fruit/veggie trays ~ yogurt parfait

 

Finger Foods will be served for lunch

 

~ Marvelous Monday Morning My Love ~

"Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, it's unlikely you will step up and take responsibility for making it so. If you assume that there's no hope, you guarantee that there will be no hope. If you assume that there is an instinct for freedom, that there are opportunities to change things, there is a chance you may contribute to making a better world. The choice is yours."  -Noam Chomsky